Guest blog We are Stronger together

As well as Muddly Mum being a place for me to talk candidly about my own struggles, I have met some awesome people on twitter who are using their own mental health struggles as a springboard to making a difference others. I find this beautiful, a sense of creating beauty from ashes. Becky is one such lovely lady and I’ve asked her to share her story with us.

Could you tell us a little about what led you to start up stronger together?

When I was really ill, I put my family and friends through hell. I shouted, I screamed, I blamed them. I demanded they fixed it and made all the bad go away and I made them miserable when all they were doing was doing their best to be there for me and support me through the darkest days. All I saw was how hard it was for me and how much I was struggling, but at the time I couldn’t see the immense pressure and strain I was putting on everyone else.

No one, including me, had ever experienced mental illness before, or even known anyone who had been through anything similar so it was new to us all. while I had doctors referrals, supposed support group, therapy, medication and hospitals, they had nothing. Their whole world had been turned upside down and they hadn’t got a clue where to start. Their little girl was struggling beyond belief and they themselves felt they were drowning in the sea of mental illness. While I could see them going through this, I couldn’t look after myself let alone look after them too.

And that is where “stronger together” started….
I realised that There was nothing in place to help the people supporting those with mental illness difficulties and that those are just as important as without them, we simply wouldn’t cope!! As part of the bigger picture I hope to change that, but for now we can help support them while they supporting others.
What brought you to the idea of self care boxes?

I think it’s important to take time out for you and take a step back from the situation so I wanted something to help people do that

What do you hope to achieve through this?
I want to help in anyway I can, but mainly to raise awareness for mental health and to make sure they are not forgotten, with more of a focus on those who support them as they are often forgotten about but without them, people like me wouldn’t get through! Just so people know there is always someone out there who cares and is listening, and to try and brighten some of the dark days

How can we help you achieve your goals?
I want to raise awareness to get the word out about stronger together in case anyone thinks it could benefit them or someone they know. I do need funding to help keep this going and reach more people. So I’d be so grateful if people could keep sharing, retweeting and donating! There will be events and competitions coming up so if anyone would like to help I’d love to hear from them! Also the lovely comments have pushed me to keep going so I want to say thank you to everyone for the support so far.

If you want to donate to help Becky take this further you can via

Have your mental health struggles changed your view on life and inspired you to do something new? We’d love to hear about it.